Thankfully, Lauren Graham is here to remind us.
That self-sufficiency is the first strength and that allows them to have these relationships.
Its why we sometimes bristle at: What team are you on?!

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Its like: It doesnt matter.
Rorys going to be great no matter what.
And I think thats an underlying message of the show, too.
I didnt even think about it!
I was wondering what [Rory] had accomplished in her career.
I wanted there to be a payoff after all her hard work.
She set so many goals and had been so ambitious academically.
Thats what I wanted to know.
Im going with yes… for Lorelai, Graham says after a long pause.
Rory probably thinks the same.
Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Lifedebuts on Netflix on Nov. 25.